rabbit hole.

yes that's the dvd cover.  i don't get it either.  when i picked it up, i thought to myself, isn't this supoose to be about a couple coping with the death of their young son?  so what's with the pornographic photo?  and with hole in the title, it sounds like some sick twisted sequel to "eyes wide shut'.  but it's not. 

but let's get serious cos this is a serious film.  the other day while googling to see when "midnight in paris" came out in theaters. i found a list of movies released in may 2011 and came across "rabbit hole".  i wanted to see it in theaters but for one reason or another never saw it.  i loved "hedwig and the angry inch" and wanted to see a john cameron mitchell film with a more serious screenplay.  (not that "hedwig" wasn't but you know, mitchell minus the camp.  also i haven't seen "shortbus".)  "hedwig" is one of my faovrites, so i was game to see another one of his films.

mitchell did not disappoint.  though i am not a parent and though i have never lost someone unexpectantly in my life, this film had me in tears.  like barely five minutes into the film kinda tears.  the screenplay is very well written.  it is by David Lindsay-Albarie who also wrote the award winning play 'rabbit hole" on which the movie was based. again though i have never experienced it, i feel this film is a an honest portrayal of life after losing a young son or daughter.  it shows that there really isn't one way to cope or even a right way to cope.  also one should expect to experience a full spectrum of emotions. 

without giving too much away, i will say that i appreciated how nicole kidman's character was anti-religion when it came to coping.  i have never found and probably will never find comfort in god when tragedy strikes.  i have explained to friends that i hope there isn't a god because human suffering shouldn't be justify by the idea that "this is what god wanted."  really god wanted horrible events to happen?  also how can one have faith in a god who lets horrible things happen to innocent people.  i can't believe in a god that places souls into families where sexual abuse happens or to parents with drug habits.  how do you justify that?  i always say i can't be job; i will question god about my suffering.  and for me i don't want to justify the horrible things that happen to me as something that god orchestrated.  who can have faith in someone who creates horrible situations for the people he love and created.  i think kidman's character summed it up best by calling god a "a sadistic prick."  a god that causes suffering would be one.  

the film touches on other topics but this is one i was left with after watching.  i was also left with puffy eyes from tears.  i think if i watch it after i have childern, i might have a different impression.  i could sympathize with the characters but i couldn't empathize with them.  this movie was good and i recommend it.  but make sure to have some discuss handy cos it is very emotional.