before i start about the book, i have to begin with my love for aziz ansari. so it all started with the movie, funny people, randy had be dying, he was like the highlight of the movie. then, i started watching parks and recreation, and when tom created a tent that looked like something out of harry potter, and made sure to keep up with top chef, i was like, we could so be bffs. and then, he was on lcd soundsystem's last concert dvd, and i was like we really need to be friends. so now i am like his biggest fan, because, he is hilarious, eats well, and his friends with james murphy! when i heard that he had a book deal, i was super excited, though i wish it were a memoir, a sociology book on love impressed me. i have to add that i did see his modern romance tour with my sister and glad i did, because it goes hand and hand with this book.
and before i start on the book, i have to add that i saw aziz at bookcon and he was the best panel of the day. even better than the much anticipated mindy kaling and bj novak panel (sorry guys). the stories behind and in his book were hilarious, but the best was the q&a. so i just googled and it's online and i am going to post it here. please watch:
so i was dying, absolutely dying during his q&a, when he told the first girl that he didn't care where she was from. and he called out that other fan for the stupid swagalicous question and last but not least the last question. so enjoyable and we also got conversation hearts that were printed with quotes from the book. so freakin' cool.
so the book was hilarious and being a single lady, surprisingly very helpful. the book offers a lot of helpful advice finding love in this modern world. here is what i learned:
-i need to start having friends set me up on dates. back in the day, people married people that lived in their neighborhood since that is what their life was restricted to. now people move away for school, work, etc. and just like aziz shared, i wouldn't want to marry a bozo from delano (no offense, people from delano), but i guess to get that quality neighborhood kind vibe, being set up by friends would be my best bet. so friend start setting me up!
-how to do online dating right! so i have been on okcupid and pretty much i just check out people, i don't really contact anyone, but i will start. and start going on actual dates. they share that people spend too much time getting to know each other online versus going on actual dates and face time (actual face time and not facetime) is what helps us determine if we are a match with someone or not. also there was a hilarious segment on optimal profile photos.
-it was interesting to read about all the subtext there is to texting now. how like pauses cause us to stress out when sometimes, people are just busy. i will say that i am glad i was part of the generation that actually used to talk to people on the phone (though i rarely do that now), but i mean these kids today only text. i was shocked to read how many were comfortable breaking up with someone via text.
-also texting and emails does allow us to have a paper trail of our love lives, which is sweet if we are together. i have to admit to spending nights reading old emails from people i thought i loved and being heartbroken about how happy we once were and angry about how shitty things became.
-speaking of breaking up, honesty is the best policy. i loved the experiment he did while on tour, having people raise their hand if they ever lied about the reason they wanted to break up with someone and then asking if they would want honesty or to be lied to if someone broke up with them. i was one of those contradicting audience members!
-it was also interesting to read about how what we want in a partner has changed. i mean we are all looking for this elusive soulmate, but it seemed like back in the day people got married and grew to love each other. we need to lower our standards! lol jk
- also we do have an infinite number of options so that makes choosing a partner, difficult as well.
-tokyo is freaking amazing. i really want to stay at the jurassic park hotel, see ladies sitting on large robots and of course get good ramen. it was also interesting to learn about the herbivore men phenomena, it reminded me of fight club, this idea of generation of emasculated men raised by their mothers. also that whole weird thing lubing up and rubbing yourself on someone sounded fun if you were in a relationship but sad if you do it cos you are single.
-the whole argentine part was crazy to read but i got it. when i was in buenos aires, my friends and i were always shocked by the number of being making out at dinner. also sadly i never got catcalled there.
-i loved the girl who photoshopped beyonce into her photos with her ex. reminded me of that satc quote to destroy all pictures where he looks good and you look happy.
-i also loved how aziz shared about his actual gf now. i knew she was a chef, i missed her pop-up in la at son of gun. i had no idea that she worked for momofuku milkbar and loved that they bonded over cookies.
-i laughed outloud every time aziz made fun of alfredo, the doughnut lover.
of course, i also saw why aziz and i should be friends. as i posted on insta this:
why aziz ansari and i should be friends: a mutual love of taxidermy, a strong desire to always eat the best tacos life has to offer, and of course, a need for delicious ramen in our lives
seriously, how are we not friends yet?
anyway, if you are single or love aziz, pick up this book. it will make you laugh out loud and hopefully help you find modern love.
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